Hugging is a universal source of comfort. It conveys reassurance, togetherness, and confirms the fact that the two of you will stand strong no matter what storms may rage. Notice when your partner seems down or pensive and offer a calming hug.Embracing your partner from behind is a nondemanding gesture that is a token of your warmth. More casual than a hug, this is a reminder that says, “Although we race through our separate days, you are the one I will always come back to.” Surprise your spouse (but be careful not to startle him!) with a cuddle from behind while he is engaged in some mundane task, like dishes or sorting the mail.Kissing—whether it’s a quick peck, or a long and sultry make-out session—nothing gets your blood racing like kissing. Nothing is more intimate—not even sex. Over time, it’s easy to forget its power as we race out the door or fall gratefully into our beds. Remind yourself to kiss your partner goodbye and hello and anytime you think of it in between. In a more intimate setting, slow things down to a pleasurable simmer by just kissing for five minutes.Handholding is an uncomplicated sign of your togetherness. It’s an announcement to the world that you belong together. Reaching for your spouse’s hand may also take you back to those first few dates where his touch sent sparks flying.Linking arms is charmingly old-fashioned and shows that you lean on each other. While walking together, take his arm and notice an instant feeling of togetherness. If you and your partner don’t enjoy holding hands, this gesture is a great alternative.
Cuddle on the couch. Turn your usual TV time into a physical encounter with some snuggling. Rather than sitting in separate seats, or putting the bowl of popcorn between you, just plop down and snuggle up. This turns what could have been an average evening into a warm shared experience—and maybe even more.Spoon your partner before you sleep or when you wake. You will drift off to sleep sharing the warmth of each other’s bodies. Spooning can often lead to sex; the feeling of the full length of your spouse’s body pressed up against yours can be hard to resist.Offering your loved one a back or shoulder rub can ease his tension. This is an unselfish act that is usually appreciated beyond measure, especially if it’s unsolicited. And don’t forget foot massages, which can be surprisingly sensual. Doing this may inspire him to return the favor. (Or you can ask in your sweetest voice and he’ll get the hint!)Have sex. Having a bad day? In a fight with your spouse? Getting busy may be the last thing on your mind, but I challenge you to witness the transformative power of sex. Making love even during the tough times can shore up a rocky period in your life or in your relationship. Work through your resistance and keep in mind that much can be made up for in the bedroom.
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