Researchers surveyed 75 Czech women and found that the women who experienced more vaginal orgasms were those who employed deep vaginal stimulation during early experimentation with masturbation. Study authors believe that this may be due to greater tactile sensitivity as well as greater awareness of vaginal sensations during intercourse. “Sensational awareness and sensitivity can be explored and enhanced at any point,” says Katherine Hertlein, PhD, associate professor and program director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of Nevada Las Vegas, whose research has focused on sex therapy. “Not only that, but the act of experimentation alone can enhance your bond with your partner.” Here are a few things to try to help you reach a vaginal orgasm: Get to know yourself. You’re likely familiar with the G-Spot (nope, it’s not a myth—here’s where the G-spot is), which experts generally pinpoint as being about an inch or so inside the front of your vagina, but vaginal orgasms don’t necessarily originate exclusively from that spot. “Some women find that other areas of their vaginal canal may also produce pleasure,” says Hertlein. Explore with light pressure and see what feels best for you. Start with lube. “Aging causes the vaginal wall to thin, which can make deep penetration potentially painful,” says Hertlein. To avoid any unpleasant sensations, make sure to have lubricant on hand and use it liberally during any positions where the focus is on deeper penetration. (Find out which lube ingredients to look for and which ingredients you should avoid.) Try a new position. “A position like ‘woman on top’ allows you to control the depth of penetration,” explains Hertlein. Or, simply slowing down the pace and making sure your partner moves slowly and deliberately can enhance your awareness and help you focus on physical sensations intercourse. (Here are 11 twists on classic coupling.) Practice Kegels. You’ve likely heard of Kegel exercises—squeezing and releasing the pelvic floor muscles. Adding Kegels to your routine a few times a week will build your PC muscles, which enhances your overall orgasmic capacity, says Hertlein. You can also try doing them during the deed to direct your awareness to your body. (New to Kegels? Here’s how to do ’em.) Prop yourself up. Placing a pillow or two under your hips allows for even deeper penetration during intercourse. “Communicate and let your partner know what feels good. And laughter is absolutely okay,” says Hertlein. “It’s the attitude, not the orgasm outcome, that’s essential.” More from Prevention: Better Sex In 14 Days
